A Daily Mail story about erotic fiction stimulating wealthy New York Housewives shows how Roissy is right. Recently, Roissy noted that women desire to dominated. Which is by the way, a luxury good. Domination and control was not possible in North-West Europe, where men were often absent for long periods, fishing, trading, or raiding, or perhaps all three. There was no spare energy available to stimulate bored housewives, who lived lives “full of interest.” Mostly on the order of avoiding dying in childbirth, disease, keeping their children alive, and other issues that are decidedly not First World Problems.
Pam, another Upper East Side mother, told the Post that Fifty Shades ‘totally makes you horny … I think everyone has totally admitted to that.’
That ‘everyone’ includes Dawn, a 27-year-old who lives in New York’s Financial District. She told the newspaper that the book is blush-inducing.
‘Every time I pick up this book,’ she explained, ‘within five minutes of reading it, I’m already tingling below the belt.’
The Upper East Side local said: ‘The person who recommended it to me said, “It will make you want to have sex with your husband.” And it did!’
She is not alone – another mother told the paper that the book is having the magical effect of boosting sex lives across the well-heeled neighbourhood.
The novel in question, “Fifty Shades of Grey” concerns a billionaire 27 year old businessman who uses bondage and sex play to dominate a young woman who falls in love with him. Upper East Side “First World Problems” women who find their husbands otherwise sexless, find the novel arousing. But that is a function of luxury, and a culture sliding into (if it has not yet arrived) decadence at a frightening speed. Failing to combat the evils of affluence, by a strong social cohesion to force everyone to adhere to at least boundaries of behavior.
Publicist Alison Brod told the newspaper that the novel is ‘the new Kabbalah for female bonding in this city’ – and is spreading its X-rated charms. ‘I found myself explaining what BDSM was to some of the moms at Saturday morning basketball.’
‘Every time I pick up this book, within five minutes of reading it, I’m already tingling below the belt’
One 40-year-old mother-of-three said that Fifty Shades is ‘just a fun escape from the daily mundane of trudging kids around and, you know, marriage’.
Having started posting BDSM fiction online, author EL James piqued the interest of small Australian publisher, The Writers’ Coffee Shop, who took a leap of faith by publishing Fifty Shades of Grey in May 2011, followed by Fifty Shades Darker and Fifty Shades Freed, on sale since January.
The newspaper likens the story to Twilight for grown-ups, suggesting it has become something of a cult tome among mothers, who, according to New Jersey mom, Alyssa Goldman, call it simply ‘The Book’.
Once upon a time, women (and men) did not seek to escape marriage and family, but embraced it. Knowing how fragile, how temporary, and how priceless it therefore was. Most of the elite women, those who shape public opinion, live in a bubble of fantasy. The author, a TV executive in West London, being one of them. Billionaire 27 year old businessmen do not look like romance novel heroes, nor do they lead beautiful young women into bondage games. They look, in fact like this guy:
The female fantasy of rich, bored housewives is a bubble ready to burst. It is not sustainable, depending on as it does, of cheap energy and US military dominance. Big cities including particularly New York are targets for jihadis, world-wide. Its like a bug light drawing insects at night, the very existence of so many rich infidels attracts attacks, when coupled with weakness. See Moscow, the Nord-Ost Theater, apartment block bombings, and the like. Or Madrid. Or London. Or Paris. Big cities also need cheap energy, to move all that waste around, provide power for elevators and lights, pump water up into high rises and the like. New York like all mega-cities, cannot survive on its own, and depends on the outside for food, water, power, and sewage treatment.
If women today, particularly among the rich and bored, crave brutal dominance, this has not been the case for most of history. Most women craved security — a husband that would not drink away his wages, would work faithfully to support the family, because that meant the difference between life and death. Quite literally. All that dominance craving is a sign of a bubble that is ready to burst. An assumption that safety, security, and stability are eternal.
A quick perusal of Western urban history would suggest this is not so. That plagues, riots, sieges, starvation, and high rates of violence characterize cities in Western Europe and the Americas. Regression to the mean would imply that the current safety and security of places like New York, will at least regress to say 1970’s norms, and very possibly to 1840’s through 1860’s norms. But in the meantime, Roissy is right.